There comes a time...

There comes a time, in every older person 55+ that we ARE getting older. Forget the marketing mantra's that the old 60 is the new 40. I just heard the old 92 is the new 60 or something. Come on, do you REALLY believe that?

I'm not trying to be a Debby-Downer - I relate more to what is real and what is true. Yeah, at times, I feel like I am 40. There are times, I even think the same way I did as a child. We all have that. The reality is, no matter how you look at it, you can not stop the aging process so you better get a grip on it - embrace it and enjoy this season or you will set yourself crazy and take even more precious years off your already limited time you have left.

My sister died at 56- because she thought if she totally denied the age thing - she could escape aging. It bothered her - the whole deal. The gaining weight in the middle, high blood pressure, wrinkles, sags, varicose veins - and she worked in the daycare/preschool industry, and even while she was highly skilled at being a Director - she still came up against ageism and discrimination. Plus, she worked herself to the breaking point. A few days before she passed, she was in the play yard with the children and she sat down, to tie a little girls shoes. She was called in for that - saying they expect her NOT to have to sit down. Come on now...the following Monday, they let her go. 3 days later, she laid down, to take a nap and just died peacefully in her sleep. 56 years young. It still gets to me. She had some health issues, that she kept to herself and tried to treat herself. You can't do that!

This past week, my husband had to go in for a cardiac catheterization. That was our time - the time we realized that we as a couple and him personally, are entering into unchartered territory. No, we don't like it, and the aging process doesn't give a hoot, about how we feel. It just does what it does. Makes us old. Thank God, it turns out, he doesn't need a stent or bypass at this time. They can treat it with medication.

We were standing at the pharmacy and they have those cameras - we looked up and saw this older couple - a white/grey-headed old lady and a balding man, with a white beard. "Is that really what we look like?"  he asked.

"I guess so" I responded back. We laughed and just held hands as we walked out the door. "There they are again!" We saw ourselves in the mirrors. "Yeah they are following us." my husband said.

Yes, old age will follow you around - so you better get used to it.

You know you're old when the Golden Girls are younger than you.

The Golden Girls first aired on television in 1985 - I was 31 years old, mom to 3 young sons. I always got a kick out of them, especially Sophia. At 31,  I was still young and the whole premise that was funny to me were these 4 old ladies living together and their "old-lady" capers.

32 years later - I am a GOLDEN GIRL only I am remarried (15 years) and living with my husband, a dog, and 2 cats. I can see myself (if widowed) - opening up my home to some older gals, my age. Would it work? 

I've been watching the series again - on Hulu. Rose was 55 years old. Blanche and Dorothy were probably in their late 50's - early 60's and of course Sophia was in her 80's. 

Of the 4 characters, I think I am more like, Sophia. Not that I act like an 80-year-old - maybe it's because her character is my favorite. I would like to be like Sophia when I am 80. I'm not man-crazy like Blanche - I'm not like Rose (we all have a little "Rose" in us at times.) Dorothy seems to have it together. Although she has her fears. I see myself similar to Dorothy, only she still wants to date men etc and quite frankly if I was widowed, I would not remarry. Not interested in the dating rituals. Been there - done that. 

What about you? Who are you more like? 

Step 3 - What are your choices?

Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our gray hair, wrinkles, saggy skin, aches and pains and our lonely lives over to the care of God as we age.

I mean, what else can you do? Live miserably? I'm NOT! Aging is just another chapter in our lives and I am going to enjoy it.

Gray Hair - I'm allowing my gray hair to take ownership of my head. Coloring or bleaching it is just a never ending battle I don't care to engage in. I admit it does seem to have a mind of its own. I get these gray wispy hairs, and I can do nothing with them. BIG DEAL. It's just hair!

Saggy skin - Yeah what about it? If you gained weight and then lost weight, you're going to have some saggy skin. You can remedy it, by gaining weight if it really bugs you. I have upper arms, that wave, and the beginnings of a saggy turkey neck. Wear a scarf and don't worry about it.

Aches and Pains - Those are normal especially if you lived an active life. Sometimes, they happen because we injured ourselves - or it's from our genes. All in all, it's because we are getting old. Face it. You have to learn to manage it. Don't just give in to the pain pills, or you will have BIGGER problems later. If you live in a state, where marijuana is legal, get some. It really helps with those aches and pains. Just remember - most of the medicinal goes up in smoke, so try and use edibles and topicals.

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Are You Lonely?

If you're lonely, only you, can get yourself out of it. I'm an introvert - so I relish my alone time. But yeah I guess there are times, I get lonely. When that happens,  I reach out. If you are an extrovert then you should know how to do this very well.

This is still a great time in our life. You just have to roll with the punches -

Care of God. 

Don't let the G-word throw you off. For me, it's God. For you, it could be a doorknob, your cousin, Buddha, mother-nature or the universe. I get so friggin tired, of having to EXPLAIN as not to OFFEND anybody or disenfranchise anybody. Okay? We're all adults here.